I was recently invited to a wedding at San Agustin Church reception at Manila Hotel last May 13, 2019. But I wasn’t able to attend for 2 reasons. One I had to bring my mother to the province where she would be staying for a couple of months. Her cardiologist said she should be with a companion always to have ready help should she faint or lose consciousness. Secondly, I had to attend to some paperwork for some properties of my mom. Duty calls and I had to fix things if not at once but to start.Anyhow if I had a chance, I would have shared some pointers of things to consider after getting engaged. So here goes….
1) Inform your parents before anyone else. It would be heartbreaking for a parent to learn about it from somebody else if not you. So pick up the phone and call them as soon as possible or better yet do it face to face to receive a warm hug and kiss from them.
2) Do the selfie ring post. It is a special occasion for any girl so you would be excited to share it with the whole world. Do this only after accomplishing #1. Go girl be proud and happy.
3) If the ring fits. Several jewelry stores around the metropolis offers services for resizing it to fit if it is not snug. This will only take a day or two and will lessen the probability of you losing the ring.
4) Don’t stress yourself inviting people who would be greeting you after your facebook, instagram or twitter post. Just be cool and say thanks. Should they ask where and when the wedding would be, just say you are still planning it.
5) If there is ample time, take a couples seminar in church or at religious communities to learn more about each other(compatibility) and the life you would be starting after the nuptials. This usually takes 2 to 5 consecutive weekends.
6) Start a Wedding Fund. Open a joint bank account to put in all money in preparation for the wedding. Set a target amount and time frame(depends on wedding date, could be open at the moment).
7) Setting the date. This is a joint decision and sometimes affected by tradition and if you have other siblings who might be getting married soon. So consult your family as soon as possible.
8) Getting a wedding planner or not. For me, since it would be your day, you shouldn’t be stressed on your big day. Get one preferably referred by someone who did an actual wedding of a relative or friend. And meet the prospective wedding planner to gauge if you could work together or not. It is your wedding and not their wedding so it should be all about you. (Not being selfish doing that).
9) Take a short vacation. This would give the two of you a time to bond and celebrate a little before things become stressful.And last but not the least…
10) Pray. Thank God for your partner, the opportunity and that things will work out for the best in the future.
I saw pictures of the wedding at Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/p/By1bRYQnGzu/?igshid=jmgnhio9fqrn and a video at facebookhttps://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2805472872812743&id=1297192910307421.
I wish Nin and and Monching all the best. May they have a long life together filled with love, laughter, hugs and kisses. May God bless you with kids(lots). May God guide you two as you journey in life. I am happy for both of you.
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